It doesn’t take hard work to keep a relationship happy or stable over time. For example, many people assume that conflict is kryptonite to relationships. But it’s actually frustration. Specifically, frustration forms when a partner’s expectations go unmet.
Happy couples have realistic expectations, both about relationships in general and about their relationship in particular. One myth is that healthy couples don’t have conflict. Conflict is inevitable. In fact, if you aren’t having conflict, you aren’t talking about the important issues in your relationship.
5. ADD or ADHD?
Attention deficit disorder with
or without hyperactivity (ADHD) is the most common behavioral disorder
of childhood, affecting 3 to 7 percent of school-age children. The three main
ADHD symptoms in children include inattention, hyperactivity and a tendency to
be impulsive. These traits can lead to difficulties in school, poor interactions
with other children and adults, and low self-esteem. Associated disorders can
include anxiety, depression, difficult behavior (oppositional defiant disorder),
tics and learning disabilities.
Candidates for Evaluation
Who should be
evaluated for ADHD or related disorders? Children who exhibit any of the
following behavioral characteristics:
- Academic difficulties
- Difficulties with attention span or excessive level of activity at home and
- Behavioral difficulties
The first step for
children seeking care and assistance is a full evaluation by
a physician – either a pediatric neurologist or psychiatrist specializing in
ADHD. The physician will obtain a detailed medical history and perform a thorough physical and neurological examination.
A consultation with a psychologist specializing in ADHD will usually be
recommended. This may include an IQ test and evaluation for symptoms of ADHD and
other conditions that can be associated or mistaken for ADHD.
The need for additional testing, such as central auditory processing, will
be assessed. Also, educational materials will be provided to the parents, and
both parents and teachers will be asked to provide input by taking part in the questionnaires to help in completing the assessment. Once the evaluation is complete, the physician will meet with the family to
discuss and explain results.
Does your child have ADHD?
The American Psychiatric Association describes
symptoms that can help in identifying ADHD in children or problems with
inattention and hyperactivity.
ADHD Symptoms in Children: Inattention
- Fails to pay close attention to details or makes careless mistakes
- Has difficulty maintaining attention in tasks or play activities
- Does not seem to listen when spoken to directly
- Does not follow directions and fails to complete schoolwork, chores, or, in
adolescents, on-the-job duties
- Has difficulty organizing tasks or activities
- Avoids or dislikes tasks that require sustained mental effort (such as
schoolwork or homework)
- Is easily distracted
- Is often forgetful in daily activities
ADHD Symptoms in Children: Hyperactivity
- Fidgets with hands or feet or squirms in seat
- Leaves seat in classroom or in other situations in which remaining seated is
- Runs or climbs excessively when inappropriate
- Has difficulty playing or engaging in leisure activities quietly
- Is always on the go or acts is if “driven by motor”
- Often talks excessively
- In adolescents, may be exhibited by feelings of restlessness
ADHD Symptoms in Children: Impulsivity
- Blurts out answers before questions have been completed
- Has difficulty waiting his/her turn
- Interrupts or intrudes on others (for example, butts into conversations or
If your child exhibits several of these symptoms, he or she may be a
candidate for evaluation by a team of professionals.